Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY
Well I am still alive and kickin'. I know it has been a long time since I blogged but I wanted to put a few thoughts down.
If you read my other blog... www.thesipefamilyblog.blogspot.com you know what is going on in the other aspect of my life. It is hard and sad and seems so wrong. Well my personal life affects my health so I am taking precautions to help keep me strong and keeping focused on the light at the end of the tunnel. The light seems bleak and dim at times but I know that it is there. If I keep my eye on it I will succeed. I have no doubt.
There are many studies that I have read about withdrawl and recovery from prescription drugs and street drugs. Women in particular have a naturally higher body fat % than men. The rate of women who relapse seems to be higher than men. After much reading and studying I have found that many studies say that any type of drug stores in our fat cells. That would make since why women have a harder and more difficult time in detoxing off of any type of substance.
By focusing our minds and staying in a positive energy it really helps.
Since the divorce drama I have gained 20 pounds. People say " Oh Alyssa don't worry you look great". I probably do but it sure doesn't feel good. Any extra weight hurts my joints. I don't want to carry around a 20 pound sack of potatoes. Why do that when I can do something about it.
So I am dedicated and determined to loose the weight naturally and healthy. I have a lot I want to improve in myself. Taking care of myself will be extremely important for my future. I want to be healthy all around. Why not cleanse myself for real and start fresh. Hell I did it with prescription pain killers and have been successful.
I am 5 days in and will update soon :-)
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Saturday, July 31, 2010
My Head
Since I haven't had access to the computer very often it has been hard to keep up on all off the different things going on in life. I wanted to take a minute and talk about what happened to my head.
On a Friday morning I woke up very lethargic. I was having a really hard time getting a satisfying breath. My body was very achy and weak. I had a meeting that I called and rescheduled because I couldn't get the strength to get out of bed.
Finally I got up and was sick. ( With EDS I seem to have a lot of stomach and intestinal discomfort ). I honestly think the opioid medications that were used for so long damaged my GI track. I started to faint. I fainted several times and ended up making it to the kitchen.
The next thing I knew I was on the floor of my living room. My head hurt really bad. I reached up to touch the area of pain and my hand was covered in blood.
I was able to see my cell phone across the floor and called the last call received. A good friend showed up with in minutes along with the neighbors downstairs.
My head was covered in blood and I could feel the cut. I had hit my head on the corner of a bench. Cutting into the back of my head. Because of my EDS and healing and bruising issues my friend called someone who knew a lot about my past.
This next comment really hurt my feelings. I have really worked hard to not use major medication for pain. This just felt like a slap in the face.
My friend asks, "Is there anything about stitches or bleeding I should know about, It looks like she needs stitches."
Voice of the past says " well is she on drugs? Or has she been drinking? Because she has OD'ed before."
Friend says, " No I checked her eyes and there is no alcohol".
So after this conversation I knew I needed to make a decision. Strangely enough When I felt the initial pain in my head and I woke up my thoughts were this. PAIN.... NO MEDICATION!
I was barely conscious and was telling myself and those around me that I was not going to take the pain medication. Absolutely NOT!!! I have worked to hard to flush it all down the toilet. I am not saying that if you need medical attention don't do it. Not that at all. I am saying for me personally, If I could take a minute and evaluate the situation and not need to go to the hospital, have stitches and medication. Then I was not going.
On the subject of OD'ing...... Let me take a minute and address that comment. Another stab to me.
Those of you with a chronic pain condition know how the effects of opioid medication work. With EDS I feel like I have a zip tie pulling around everyone of my affected joints. Achy, constant pressure, sore, tight, but yet I am very loose in my joints. Hard to explain but you get the idea.
You take the medication... It takes the pain away. Eventually your tolerance goes up, and new medications are tried in a trial and error plan. What will work and what doesn't. But it is hard to know really if one things is working because you have the effects of the other medications. Eventually you are 100 lbs and have the medication tolerance of a Sumo Wrestler.
I DID NOT PURPOSELY OD ON PAIN MEDICATION!!!! When you are that medicated you don't realize time anymore, or how much you have taken. Life stands still.You just want relief.
I have been out of the DETOX Hospital since February and had only the one relapse shortly after. That was not intentional and extremely upsetting hearing it as a slap in the face ...Is she on drugs? She has OD'ed before And drinking to numb the the pain does not work. All of the damage to my GI track makes "getting drunk" painful. So why would I be drunk, and why would I be drinking at 11 AM ?
OK now that that is out of my system
I feel so good that I have been strong enough to tackle the demon, kick his butt and move on.
Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY
On a Friday morning I woke up very lethargic. I was having a really hard time getting a satisfying breath. My body was very achy and weak. I had a meeting that I called and rescheduled because I couldn't get the strength to get out of bed.
Finally I got up and was sick. ( With EDS I seem to have a lot of stomach and intestinal discomfort ). I honestly think the opioid medications that were used for so long damaged my GI track. I started to faint. I fainted several times and ended up making it to the kitchen.
The next thing I knew I was on the floor of my living room. My head hurt really bad. I reached up to touch the area of pain and my hand was covered in blood.
I was able to see my cell phone across the floor and called the last call received. A good friend showed up with in minutes along with the neighbors downstairs.
My head was covered in blood and I could feel the cut. I had hit my head on the corner of a bench. Cutting into the back of my head. Because of my EDS and healing and bruising issues my friend called someone who knew a lot about my past.
This next comment really hurt my feelings. I have really worked hard to not use major medication for pain. This just felt like a slap in the face.
My friend asks, "Is there anything about stitches or bleeding I should know about, It looks like she needs stitches."
Voice of the past says " well is she on drugs? Or has she been drinking? Because she has OD'ed before."
Friend says, " No I checked her eyes and there is no alcohol".
So after this conversation I knew I needed to make a decision. Strangely enough When I felt the initial pain in my head and I woke up my thoughts were this. PAIN.... NO MEDICATION!
I was barely conscious and was telling myself and those around me that I was not going to take the pain medication. Absolutely NOT!!! I have worked to hard to flush it all down the toilet. I am not saying that if you need medical attention don't do it. Not that at all. I am saying for me personally, If I could take a minute and evaluate the situation and not need to go to the hospital, have stitches and medication. Then I was not going.
On the subject of OD'ing...... Let me take a minute and address that comment. Another stab to me.
Those of you with a chronic pain condition know how the effects of opioid medication work. With EDS I feel like I have a zip tie pulling around everyone of my affected joints. Achy, constant pressure, sore, tight, but yet I am very loose in my joints. Hard to explain but you get the idea.
You take the medication... It takes the pain away. Eventually your tolerance goes up, and new medications are tried in a trial and error plan. What will work and what doesn't. But it is hard to know really if one things is working because you have the effects of the other medications. Eventually you are 100 lbs and have the medication tolerance of a Sumo Wrestler.
I DID NOT PURPOSELY OD ON PAIN MEDICATION!!!! When you are that medicated you don't realize time anymore, or how much you have taken. Life stands still.You just want relief.
I have been out of the DETOX Hospital since February and had only the one relapse shortly after. That was not intentional and extremely upsetting hearing it as a slap in the face ...Is she on drugs? She has OD'ed before And drinking to numb the the pain does not work. All of the damage to my GI track makes "getting drunk" painful. So why would I be drunk, and why would I be drinking at 11 AM ?
OK now that that is out of my system
I feel so good that I have been strong enough to tackle the demon, kick his butt and move on.
Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY
Sunday, July 18, 2010
I am back
A lot of people have been asking "where did you go? Did you fall off the face of the earth." No I am OK. I moved a few months ago and have to move again in a few days. So I have not had computer access. I have a lot to cover but will find computers to do that. There is just to much to cover in a few minutes. I have had to deal with a lot but am finding a lot of strength inside myself. I am really OK and continue to find more peace everyday.
I was watching that cute movie JULIE and JULIA with my kids last night. I remember her saying as she blogged " Does anyone read this? Does anyone care? There has to be someone out there that needs me."
Well no matter who you are or why you read my blog. I hope I can help in some way.
I will go over lots of things very soon.
Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY
I was watching that cute movie JULIE and JULIA with my kids last night. I remember her saying as she blogged " Does anyone read this? Does anyone care? There has to be someone out there that needs me."
Well no matter who you are or why you read my blog. I hope I can help in some way.
I will go over lots of things very soon.
Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Missing My Expression
Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY
I miss my expression through music. I have been a classically trained violinist since I was nine years old. Music has always been an incredibly important part of my life. It is a magic "cure all" for any problem or emotion I have ever had.
For my whole life I have gone to my instrument to create and learn. I have not been able to touch a violin for over a year. My beautiful instrument was broken and I have not yet been able to repair it. I would play my violin for hour after hour everyday as a child and into my adulthood. I love it so much that when I was a child my parents would take away my violin as punishment instead of grounding me. I would open the window in my violin room and play and play. I loved to just improvise and be creative. I never liked to read music. I loved to close my eyes and play. I never had to look at the strings. My fingers just knew where to perfectly land.
I know you must be thinking " why is she talking about this" Trust me it ties in.
Year after year of twisting my wrist put a lot of stress and wear on the joints in the fingers, left wrist and hand. My left hand always feels very painful and swollen. Pain shoots up my fingers and into my wrist constantly. It is very discouraging because I know that there is damage in the left hand and I need surgery.
My biggest fear of surgery is not the actually surgery itself but the real fear is waking up on pain medication and needing to use pain medication after. It worries me so much that I keep putting off the doctor knowing they will tell me I need the surgery.
So i keep living with the pain and ignoring the problem. But I want so badly to be able to have the energy in my hands to play violin again. It is such an important part of my life.
I can take any aggression, anger, sadness, anxiety, excitement, happiness etc. out on my violin.
I kind of feel stumped on what to do.
Do I get a surgery that could potentially give me back strength and mobility and potentially put myself in the path of prescription pain medication, or do I not play again and keep trying to ignore the increasing pain and degeneration of my hand.
I have a lot of confidence in my ability to not use medication right now, but I don't know if I am willing to play a big gamble on my success.
Getting off of the medications that actually helps manage the pain of EDS is so hard. The pain NEVER goes away. It is always there. Constant as a reminder of the condition. It would be so amazing to not feel pain on a continuous basis. I actually can't imagine what it would be like for it to completely be gone. I do not ever remember not feeling some level of pain.
If I could explain the pain EDS causes I would but it is sort of indescribable. The middle of my back is always on FIRE. My fingers bend in many unnatural directions, my jaw always feels tight like I am clinching my teeth when I really am not.
But I want and need my creative outlet back and I am afraid that if I don't have a surgery to repair the damage that one day it will be to late. I am also worried that with one surgery comes another. A shoulder again, a hip a knee, my back. So I just am stumped on what to do.
I miss my expression through music. I have been a classically trained violinist since I was nine years old. Music has always been an incredibly important part of my life. It is a magic "cure all" for any problem or emotion I have ever had.
For my whole life I have gone to my instrument to create and learn. I have not been able to touch a violin for over a year. My beautiful instrument was broken and I have not yet been able to repair it. I would play my violin for hour after hour everyday as a child and into my adulthood. I love it so much that when I was a child my parents would take away my violin as punishment instead of grounding me. I would open the window in my violin room and play and play. I loved to just improvise and be creative. I never liked to read music. I loved to close my eyes and play. I never had to look at the strings. My fingers just knew where to perfectly land.
I know you must be thinking " why is she talking about this" Trust me it ties in.
Year after year of twisting my wrist put a lot of stress and wear on the joints in the fingers, left wrist and hand. My left hand always feels very painful and swollen. Pain shoots up my fingers and into my wrist constantly. It is very discouraging because I know that there is damage in the left hand and I need surgery.
My biggest fear of surgery is not the actually surgery itself but the real fear is waking up on pain medication and needing to use pain medication after. It worries me so much that I keep putting off the doctor knowing they will tell me I need the surgery.
So i keep living with the pain and ignoring the problem. But I want so badly to be able to have the energy in my hands to play violin again. It is such an important part of my life.
I can take any aggression, anger, sadness, anxiety, excitement, happiness etc. out on my violin.
I kind of feel stumped on what to do.
Do I get a surgery that could potentially give me back strength and mobility and potentially put myself in the path of prescription pain medication, or do I not play again and keep trying to ignore the increasing pain and degeneration of my hand.
I have a lot of confidence in my ability to not use medication right now, but I don't know if I am willing to play a big gamble on my success.
Getting off of the medications that actually helps manage the pain of EDS is so hard. The pain NEVER goes away. It is always there. Constant as a reminder of the condition. It would be so amazing to not feel pain on a continuous basis. I actually can't imagine what it would be like for it to completely be gone. I do not ever remember not feeling some level of pain.
If I could explain the pain EDS causes I would but it is sort of indescribable. The middle of my back is always on FIRE. My fingers bend in many unnatural directions, my jaw always feels tight like I am clinching my teeth when I really am not.
But I want and need my creative outlet back and I am afraid that if I don't have a surgery to repair the damage that one day it will be to late. I am also worried that with one surgery comes another. A shoulder again, a hip a knee, my back. So I just am stumped on what to do.
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Change
Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY
So many people lately have said " Alyssa you have changed" I find it interesting who is saying what and why...
Yes I have changed. I am confident in myself. I stand up for my self. I will not be put down.
Is that wrong that I have embraced who I am inside and find confidence in a positive change? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
I have had many struggles in my life. Many challenges and decisions that have really effected my life. But if I didn't have them I would never grow and develop the person I am now because of those times.
I have really taken a huge step back and looked at my life and the choices I have made. They have not all been good. In fact a hand full have been not so great. But at least I recognize them and see where I can grow and improve.
There will always be people in my life that with judge my past.They will judge my present and future before anything happens, and they still feel it is OK to make a judgment call on me. But they have never lived my life. I am the one that has been there.
I see peoples struggles and difficulties so differently now. I want to help. I want them to have hope and find peace in themselves.
Nobody is perfect. Nobody will be or can ever expect perfection out of themselves or other. We are human we make mistakes. If we keep making mistakes and never learn from them, then that is a problem. But if we recognize and don't beat our selves up because of unrealistic expectations that we put on ourselves and we feel from others, we will be a lot better off.
So I am finding strength and confidence in difficult times. I know what pushes my buttons now. So I have changed how I react. I am a lot calmer and accepting of advice and what others have to say.
I feel good
So many people lately have said " Alyssa you have changed" I find it interesting who is saying what and why...
Yes I have changed. I am confident in myself. I stand up for my self. I will not be put down.
Is that wrong that I have embraced who I am inside and find confidence in a positive change? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
I have had many struggles in my life. Many challenges and decisions that have really effected my life. But if I didn't have them I would never grow and develop the person I am now because of those times.
I have really taken a huge step back and looked at my life and the choices I have made. They have not all been good. In fact a hand full have been not so great. But at least I recognize them and see where I can grow and improve.
There will always be people in my life that with judge my past.They will judge my present and future before anything happens, and they still feel it is OK to make a judgment call on me. But they have never lived my life. I am the one that has been there.
I see peoples struggles and difficulties so differently now. I want to help. I want them to have hope and find peace in themselves.
Nobody is perfect. Nobody will be or can ever expect perfection out of themselves or other. We are human we make mistakes. If we keep making mistakes and never learn from them, then that is a problem. But if we recognize and don't beat our selves up because of unrealistic expectations that we put on ourselves and we feel from others, we will be a lot better off.
So I am finding strength and confidence in difficult times. I know what pushes my buttons now. So I have changed how I react. I am a lot calmer and accepting of advice and what others have to say.
I feel good
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Everyday honestly
Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY
I have had a lot of email lately asking me " Alyssa, why haven't you updated you blog"... Well I went over it in my mind and thought.... Do I want people to know what is really going on with me, or do I want to make sure that they hear no negative and only positive? Then I remembered the promise I made to myself... I WILL ALWAYS BE HONEST AND NOT CARE WHO READS THIS, IT JUST MIGHT HELP SOMEONE!
Well my life has been changing. For quite a long time. It is an emotional roller coaster that I am coming to grips with. I don't really know how or why I got here but I will do my best to embrace where I am going.
So for now this is what I have to say.....For a really long time I have looked in the mirror wondering who I saw. Is the face I saw looking back at me ... me
She is a collaboration of many years. Many trials. Many tears. Many decisions. Many fears, a lot of getting to know... me
I am happy with the the women that looks back at me. I know that she has a lot to offer, and give to others. I know that she is a good mother, friend, sister, daughter, aunt, partner and much more.
I might not be what the normal says to be, but I am real. I am a good person and happy about who I am. I want to help other people. I want them to learn from my mistakes and grow. I want to be involved in their growth and development. I want them to know me and know that I have been there and that I understand and will not judge them.
I have had a lot of email lately asking me " Alyssa, why haven't you updated you blog"... Well I went over it in my mind and thought.... Do I want people to know what is really going on with me, or do I want to make sure that they hear no negative and only positive? Then I remembered the promise I made to myself... I WILL ALWAYS BE HONEST AND NOT CARE WHO READS THIS, IT JUST MIGHT HELP SOMEONE!
Well my life has been changing. For quite a long time. It is an emotional roller coaster that I am coming to grips with. I don't really know how or why I got here but I will do my best to embrace where I am going.
So for now this is what I have to say.....For a really long time I have looked in the mirror wondering who I saw. Is the face I saw looking back at me ... me
She is a collaboration of many years. Many trials. Many tears. Many decisions. Many fears, a lot of getting to know... me
I am happy with the the women that looks back at me. I know that she has a lot to offer, and give to others. I know that she is a good mother, friend, sister, daughter, aunt, partner and much more.
I might not be what the normal says to be, but I am real. I am a good person and happy about who I am. I want to help other people. I want them to learn from my mistakes and grow. I want to be involved in their growth and development. I want them to know me and know that I have been there and that I understand and will not judge them.
Monday, April 12, 2010
Emotions and Pain
Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY
When you really break it down, yes it makes sense, Emotions are linked with pain.
A little experiment I have been putting on myself lately is this.... I am consciously becoming aware of times when I am in less pain than others. I notice when I am around certain people or places that are secure and comfortable, happy, full of laughter or exciting, that I don't focus so much on the pain. Now that I am consciously thinking about it, there have been a few times that I have not thought about it at all.
When I am in a tense, unhappy, chaotic place, situation, or around negative people, the focus comes back to the pain.
The pain is never actually gone, but how much I focus on it is another thing.
When the weather is going to change, I should be the weather man. I feel it in all my bones days before. I have been working really hard lately and taking the energy that I have and using it full force instead of pacing myself. So last night I crashed at 8pm. I was so tired it overwhelmed me. I just wanted to be in a dark place, away from everything and be alone.
I went to bed and put my CVR on as I do every night. As I was going through the session and achieving the relaxing state that I needed, all of a sudden I could hear kids and dogs and the normal sounds of the evening in the background. These are all normal sounds expected to be heard in a house full of people and animals. But I realized I was all tensed up in a ball. All of a sudden my focus went to the emotion of the moment and it caused stress and anxiety. That stress and anxiety caused me to focus on the pain. Then I paused for a minute and asked that the door be closed. When nobody heard me I yelled "Please Close my door". Yelling caused even more awareness of pain.( in fact just writing this makes me focus on it and I am paying attention to the pain in my hands and the head ache.)
So yelling and screaming don't help! Even as a mother with dogs and kids, screaming yelling and fighting does the exact opposite of what you are trying to achieve. HARMONY! We need to take time everyday for ourselves. This is not selfish. Putting yourself first actually makes you better. If you don't take care of you, then how can you take care of others.
It is important for your health and happiness.
I used to think, "If I yell than someone will hear me". Wrong! It just turns up the tension in the room causing everything to shut down and the walls of communication are built and then in reality.... NO ONE IS LISTENING!
Getting back to my pain is linked with emotion topic... So tonight I went for an infrared body wrap with CVR session together. It helped so much. The setting was calm, soothing, patient and harmonious. I used the ( How to reduce stress and anxiety) series. I needed to be reminded that I am in control of me. Not the pain, not the world around me.. I am in control.
As I was listening to the session it made sense. I was listening to a very soothing voice and subconsciously he was saying things to me to think about the positive aspects of who I am and taking care of my body. Not one negative word was spoken.
I was not focusing any longer on the pain that I had originally come in for. My joints were warm, calmed, and I was able to really focus on achieving the goal I had set for myself. Positive situations, people, space, energy, have so much to do with where your focus is and what your focus is on.
Another situation that I have become totally conscious of is laughter. Laughter is like natures tranquiler. When we laugh we are suddenly not anxious, depressed, or focusing on the pain. Our brains release chemicals that stimulate us instead of depress us.
If you know me, you would know that I will laugh at just about anything. I in fact love to laugh.
I have had a lot on my mind lately, which causes stress and anxiety. Pain causes stress and anxiety. Stress and anxiety produce depression. Depression makes us focus on the pain, in turn repeating the ugly cycle of focusing on the pain.
Changing the situation , atmosphere, people, or whatever the case may be puts the focus elsewhere.
So emotion can be used to focus on the bad or focus on the good. Let's weigh the pros and cons of using emotions for bad and emotions for good.
Emotion Pro
- laughter
- focus on positive
- feel better
- look better ( people can read every emotion you have like a red flag on you forehead)
- live longer
- be more productive
- seek harmony, peace, and security
- have more friends
- be a better partner
- be a positive example
- sleep better
- look better ( did you know it takes more muscles in your face and neck to frown than it does to smile)
( so you get my point )
Cons of emotion
- no sleep
- focus on pain
- look bad
- people don't want to be around you
Obviously using emotion to help control pain, anxiety, fear, and depression in a positive way gives us so much more than focusing on the negative.
Positive affirmations everyday. Constant focus on the good will attract happiness, peace, and harmony.
So go ahead and LAUGH! It is natures medicine.
I like this poem about laughter...
Life can be hard to live sometimes
In the daily rush to do this and do that
Let us not forget to use the free gift we have
The gift of laughter
When times are hard, when all you can see is the dark
It is easier to close your eyes and just give up
Start looking for the rainbow
That brightens even the greyest sky
Even in moments so sad
Find something that will make you smile
Remember times that make you happy
Remember the clown that made you laugh
Make this journey a memorable one
Not just for yourselves but for others too
And do not forget to use your free gift
The gift of laughter
By Shaheen Darr
When you really break it down, yes it makes sense, Emotions are linked with pain.
A little experiment I have been putting on myself lately is this.... I am consciously becoming aware of times when I am in less pain than others. I notice when I am around certain people or places that are secure and comfortable, happy, full of laughter or exciting, that I don't focus so much on the pain. Now that I am consciously thinking about it, there have been a few times that I have not thought about it at all.
When I am in a tense, unhappy, chaotic place, situation, or around negative people, the focus comes back to the pain.
The pain is never actually gone, but how much I focus on it is another thing.
When the weather is going to change, I should be the weather man. I feel it in all my bones days before. I have been working really hard lately and taking the energy that I have and using it full force instead of pacing myself. So last night I crashed at 8pm. I was so tired it overwhelmed me. I just wanted to be in a dark place, away from everything and be alone.
I went to bed and put my CVR on as I do every night. As I was going through the session and achieving the relaxing state that I needed, all of a sudden I could hear kids and dogs and the normal sounds of the evening in the background. These are all normal sounds expected to be heard in a house full of people and animals. But I realized I was all tensed up in a ball. All of a sudden my focus went to the emotion of the moment and it caused stress and anxiety. That stress and anxiety caused me to focus on the pain. Then I paused for a minute and asked that the door be closed. When nobody heard me I yelled "Please Close my door". Yelling caused even more awareness of pain.( in fact just writing this makes me focus on it and I am paying attention to the pain in my hands and the head ache.)
So yelling and screaming don't help! Even as a mother with dogs and kids, screaming yelling and fighting does the exact opposite of what you are trying to achieve. HARMONY! We need to take time everyday for ourselves. This is not selfish. Putting yourself first actually makes you better. If you don't take care of you, then how can you take care of others.
It is important for your health and happiness.
I used to think, "If I yell than someone will hear me". Wrong! It just turns up the tension in the room causing everything to shut down and the walls of communication are built and then in reality.... NO ONE IS LISTENING!
Getting back to my pain is linked with emotion topic... So tonight I went for an infrared body wrap with CVR session together. It helped so much. The setting was calm, soothing, patient and harmonious. I used the ( How to reduce stress and anxiety) series. I needed to be reminded that I am in control of me. Not the pain, not the world around me.. I am in control.
As I was listening to the session it made sense. I was listening to a very soothing voice and subconsciously he was saying things to me to think about the positive aspects of who I am and taking care of my body. Not one negative word was spoken.
I was not focusing any longer on the pain that I had originally come in for. My joints were warm, calmed, and I was able to really focus on achieving the goal I had set for myself. Positive situations, people, space, energy, have so much to do with where your focus is and what your focus is on.
Another situation that I have become totally conscious of is laughter. Laughter is like natures tranquiler. When we laugh we are suddenly not anxious, depressed, or focusing on the pain. Our brains release chemicals that stimulate us instead of depress us.
If you know me, you would know that I will laugh at just about anything. I in fact love to laugh.
I have had a lot on my mind lately, which causes stress and anxiety. Pain causes stress and anxiety. Stress and anxiety produce depression. Depression makes us focus on the pain, in turn repeating the ugly cycle of focusing on the pain.
Changing the situation , atmosphere, people, or whatever the case may be puts the focus elsewhere.
So emotion can be used to focus on the bad or focus on the good. Let's weigh the pros and cons of using emotions for bad and emotions for good.
Emotion Pro
- laughter
- focus on positive
- feel better
- look better ( people can read every emotion you have like a red flag on you forehead)
- live longer
- be more productive
- seek harmony, peace, and security
- have more friends
- be a better partner
- be a positive example
- sleep better
- look better ( did you know it takes more muscles in your face and neck to frown than it does to smile)
( so you get my point )
Cons of emotion
- no sleep
- focus on pain
- look bad
- people don't want to be around you
Obviously using emotion to help control pain, anxiety, fear, and depression in a positive way gives us so much more than focusing on the negative.
Positive affirmations everyday. Constant focus on the good will attract happiness, peace, and harmony.
So go ahead and LAUGH! It is natures medicine.
I like this poem about laughter...
Life can be hard to live sometimes
In the daily rush to do this and do that
Let us not forget to use the free gift we have
The gift of laughter
When times are hard, when all you can see is the dark
It is easier to close your eyes and just give up
Start looking for the rainbow
That brightens even the greyest sky
Even in moments so sad
Find something that will make you smile
Remember times that make you happy
Remember the clown that made you laugh
Make this journey a memorable one
Not just for yourselves but for others too
And do not forget to use your free gift
The gift of laughter
By Shaheen Darr
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