Emotions and Pain

Attitude is Everything... BE HAPPY

When you really break it down, yes it makes sense, Emotions are linked with pain.

A little experiment I have been putting on myself lately is this.... I am consciously becoming aware of times when I am in less pain than others. I notice when I am around certain people or places that are secure and comfortable, happy, full of laughter or exciting, that I don't focus so much on the pain. Now that I am consciously thinking about it, there have been a few times that I have not thought about it at all.

When I am in a tense, unhappy, chaotic place, situation, or around negative people, the focus comes back to the pain.

The pain is never actually gone, but how much I focus on it is another thing.

When the weather is going to change, I should be the weather man. I feel it in all my bones days before. I have been working really hard lately and taking the energy that I have and using it full force instead of pacing myself. So last night I crashed at 8pm. I was so tired it overwhelmed me. I just wanted to be in a dark place, away from everything and be alone.

I went to bed and put my CVR on as I do every night. As I was going through the session and achieving the relaxing state that I needed, all of a sudden I could hear kids and dogs and the normal sounds of the evening in the background. These are all normal sounds expected to be heard in a house full of people and animals. But I realized I was all tensed up in a ball. All of a sudden my focus went to the emotion of the moment and it caused stress and anxiety. That stress and anxiety caused me to focus on the pain. Then I paused for a minute and asked that the door be closed. When nobody heard me I yelled "Please Close my door". Yelling caused even more awareness of pain.( in fact just writing this makes me focus on it and I am paying attention to the pain in my hands and the head ache.)
So yelling and screaming don't help! Even as a mother with dogs and kids, screaming yelling and fighting does the exact opposite of what you are trying to achieve. HARMONY! We need to take time everyday for ourselves. This is not selfish. Putting yourself first actually makes you better. If you don't take care of you, then how can you take care of others.
It is important for your health and happiness.
I used to think, "If I yell than someone will hear me". Wrong! It just turns up the tension in the room causing everything to shut down and the walls of communication are built and then in reality.... NO ONE IS LISTENING!

Getting back to my pain is linked with emotion topic... So tonight I went for an infrared body wrap with CVR session together. It helped so much. The setting was calm, soothing, patient and harmonious. I used the ( How to reduce stress and anxiety) series. I needed to be reminded that I am in control of me. Not the pain, not the world around me.. I am in control.
As I was listening to the session it made sense. I was listening to a very soothing voice and subconsciously he was saying things to me to think about the positive aspects of who I am and taking care of my body. Not one negative word was spoken.

I was not focusing any longer on the pain that I had originally come in for. My joints were warm, calmed, and I was able to really focus on achieving the goal I had set for myself. Positive situations, people, space, energy, have so much to do with where your focus is and what your focus is on.

Another situation that I have become totally conscious of is laughter. Laughter is like natures tranquiler. When we laugh we are suddenly not anxious, depressed, or focusing on the pain. Our brains release chemicals that stimulate us instead of depress us.
If you know me, you would know that I will laugh at just about anything. I in fact love to laugh.

I have had a lot on my mind lately, which causes stress and anxiety. Pain causes stress and anxiety. Stress and anxiety produce depression. Depression makes us focus on the pain, in turn repeating the ugly cycle of focusing on the pain.

Changing the situation , atmosphere, people, or whatever the case may be puts the focus elsewhere.

So emotion can be used to focus on the bad or focus on the good. Let's weigh the pros and cons of using emotions for bad and emotions for good.

Emotion Pro
- laughter
- focus on positive
- feel better
- look better ( people can read every emotion you have like a red flag on you forehead)
- live longer
- be more productive
- seek harmony, peace, and security
- have more friends
- be a better partner
- be a positive example
- sleep better
- look better ( did you know it takes more muscles in your face and neck to frown than it does to smile)
( so you get my point )

Cons of emotion
- no sleep
- focus on pain
- look bad
- people don't want to be around you

Obviously using emotion to help control pain, anxiety, fear, and depression in a positive way gives us so much more than focusing on the negative.

Positive affirmations everyday. Constant focus on the good will attract happiness, peace, and harmony.

So go ahead and LAUGH! It is natures medicine.

I like this poem about laughter...

Life can be hard to live sometimes
In the daily rush to do this and do that
Let us not forget to use the free gift we have
The gift of laughter

When times are hard, when all you can see is the dark
It is easier to close your eyes and just give up
Start looking for the rainbow
That brightens even the greyest sky

Even in moments so sad
Find something that will make you smile
Remember times that make you happy
Remember the clown that made you laugh

Make this journey a memorable one
Not just for yourselves but for others too
And do not forget to use your free gift
The gift of laughter
By Shaheen Darr